I started dating at a really young age; in fact I was the first one of my friends to ever really have a boyfriend; granted when you’re as tall as I am at 14 you can pass for almost twice your age sometimes. I’ve had numerous relationships and in these relationships I was involved with a variety of different men- some older, some younger, some rich, some broke, some famous and some just the regular average Joe but in all of them I found something in common. Men lie. It was through this realization and years of experience that I developed trust issues like most people but I went about it differently.
As much of a paradox and this is going to sound, although I have a very traditional Iranian perspective towards things, I don’t really believe in the concept of monogamy unless the guy I’m dating is ready to dedicate himself to me to the point of marriage. So here’s the thing. My trust issues make me think that almost every guy that comes into my life is either going to screw up or he’s going to walk out on me, and with that being said, I can’t fully be in a relationship that’s not headed towards what I ultimately want and that’s marriage.
As great as monogamy is after marriage and believe me I’m all for that, what is monogamy before marriage except possible missed opportunities? As women, as much as we like to pretend, the ball isn’t entirely in our court because well…at the end of the day it’s the guy that has to get down on one knee and propose to us. So what if by being entirely committed to a guy who doesn’t really know what he wants we’re in fact just robbing ourselves out of meeting a great guy who can give us the happily ever after? I’ve heard the phrase wasted time countless times being used by my friends in reference to the guys they’ve dated and in reality it was wasted time. And yes- they grew from the experience but at the end of the day wasted time is wasted time.
My whole thing is if we’re so busy being committed to someone, both mentally and physically, that doesn’t know completely the path that they want to take with you in life after some time, by being monogamous we’re cheating ourselves out of life. In a day and age where time is everything, the last thing we need is another person who wants to waste it. With that being said, “Girls, don’t let a guy treat you like a yellow starburst, you are a pink starburst,”
As much of a paradox and this is going to sound, although I have a very traditional Iranian perspective towards things, I don’t really believe in the concept of monogamy unless the guy I’m dating is ready to dedicate himself to me to the point of marriage. So here’s the thing. My trust issues make me think that almost every guy that comes into my life is either going to screw up or he’s going to walk out on me, and with that being said, I can’t fully be in a relationship that’s not headed towards what I ultimately want and that’s marriage.
As great as monogamy is after marriage and believe me I’m all for that, what is monogamy before marriage except possible missed opportunities? As women, as much as we like to pretend, the ball isn’t entirely in our court because well…at the end of the day it’s the guy that has to get down on one knee and propose to us. So what if by being entirely committed to a guy who doesn’t really know what he wants we’re in fact just robbing ourselves out of meeting a great guy who can give us the happily ever after? I’ve heard the phrase wasted time countless times being used by my friends in reference to the guys they’ve dated and in reality it was wasted time. And yes- they grew from the experience but at the end of the day wasted time is wasted time.
My whole thing is if we’re so busy being committed to someone, both mentally and physically, that doesn’t know completely the path that they want to take with you in life after some time, by being monogamous we’re cheating ourselves out of life. In a day and age where time is everything, the last thing we need is another person who wants to waste it. With that being said, “Girls, don’t let a guy treat you like a yellow starburst, you are a pink starburst,”